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I love Facebook. Anyone who knows me knows that. In fact, I’m dangerously close to a reality where, if you don’t know me on Facebook, you probably don’t know me. It’s like, if you ask me, “what’s up?” and you don’t know about my running jokes and my interest in soccer, writing, American Idol, my hair, and vanity license plates, well, you obviously haven’t done your homework and you’re actually just asking me about myself for your health.
I’m kidding. Sort of.
But what I also like about Facebook is how people post inspiring pictures of kittens, mountains, children, Jesus, or kittens with Jesus and each has an uplifting, motivating message. It’s like a constant source of cool quotes and good thoughts. Then my friend Lisa felt inspired to publish this photo (top/left) to her timeline and I was like, “um, no …I learned who I was back in college and now I’ve spent nearly 20 years trying to un-become who I are.”
I am a guy who likes to sleep about, oh, 18 hours each day, play video games during his waking hours, eat cookies …always. Like, live on cookies and throw in the occasional multivitamin so I’m getting some vegetables. I’m a guy who likes to watch TV while waking and dozing for those 18 hours. Why 18 hours? Because everyone knows when you sleep in front of the TV on your couch, you’re not getting “good sleep” so you need more of it. I learned 18 hours of “couch/TV sleep” was about the equivalent of 7 hours of darkness/night time sleep.
“Who I are” lived 30 pounds overweight. “Who I are” learned to live on $20 a week that my parents gave me. “Who I are” bailed on commitments. “Who I are” wasn’t nice to all people and sorta, ahem, wasn’t respectful to my parents.
So, what I’m saying is …without a filter and without constantly striving to NOT BECOME who I are, I’ve managed to stay employed, keep a wife, and convince everyone I’m able to raise three children.
“Who I are” is a sail boat without someone constantly holding the rutter and the sheets (those are the ropes that hold the sail in place). Thank goodness for everyone holding the sheets, the rutter, and keeping me afloat.
Not sure why I jumped all over this little tidbit of Facebook wisdom, but I just want people to understand …don’t become who you are. Become who you want to be.
The categories on this blog are as random as the posts and the fleeting thoughts in my head. Too often, a fleeting thought becomes a fleeting action-item which goes onto my to-do list, and then somewhere along the line, it drops off the to-do list or doesn’t transfer from one to-do list to another, and I trick myself into forgetting I was going to do something.
Lucky for me, from time to time inspiration enters my life in the form of friends, mentors, peers, or just some form of debt I’m about to incur because I put the cart before the horse. Like, book a trip to Hawaii for example and then wake up one night realizing, “hey, I can’t pay for that,” and see how your mind races to invent a revenue stream.
At least that’s how I tend to operate.
Today, enter an email from awesome person Rochelle the “Write Now Coach” who’s launching a NaNoWriMo Camp or something this summer for would-be book writers. I’m gonna write a book. I did, recently, actually, and it wasn’t as difficult as I had feared …there’s that word …”fear.” I’m not saying the book was any good (though two friends did actually buy it and read it and say it was “good” and “funny” …so that’s some positive feedback).
Anyway, back to Rochelle. Got an email from her today and she’s doing this, and I’m going to do it, too. NaNoWriMo is short for “National Novel Writing Month” and usually happens in November, but it turns out they want to extend the brand. Slick.
Rochelle’s action-item list in brief looks like this:
1. Choose a project (I’ve chosen THREE projects, mostly because I’ve been putting them off for months)
2. Decide on a word count (each of mine will be around 20,000 each)
3. Choose a cue (mine will be a 5 a.m. cup of Aeropressed coffee)
4. Get rewards (still figuring it out)
5. Get support (it will be my peers at spunkybean, Rochelle, and all the awesome ppl on Twitter with me).
Who’s with me? Check out the links above and get inspired. Oh, and don’t rely on my exclusively because, if you know me, you’ll know this motivation may last only as long as the caffeine from this Americano allows. I can’t recommend this enough …whether you are a writer, painter, or photographer …it’s all art. Rochelle taps into “creativity” and “inspiration” which looks and smells about the same in all artistic endeavors.
Good luck.
Like most writers, I’m always seeking the perfect writing environment. The problem is, it’s always changing. I often think I’d write best if I lived in a small cabin over-looking one of the Great Lakes and the air was often crisp and chilled, and I would need to wear a thick wool sweater and drink lots of coffee all the time. I’d have a yellow-lab that loved laying by the fire.
Then sometimes I think, no, a coffee shop surrounded by hipsters using Mac Book Airs would be best.
Or maybe the quaint, simple desk I have in my bedroom and the Logitech Wave Keyboard and huge computer monitor is best.
Just as I can never pin down the perfect writing environment, I’m also always in search of the best writing process. MS Word? Google Docs? Or some other simple, no-frills word-processor for my iPad. “Distraction free” is a real buzz word amongst us writers.
But then sometimes, we writers need distractions …especially when researching for a piece, or looking for links and related articles and images. And for this, I’m in love with the new Google Docs Research Tool which opens up a search window right inside the document editor. It’s totally awesome and my kinda distraction.
If you write alot for the web, I highly suggest it. It’s so great, now I’m going to ask Santa to add a similar feature to WordPress because I compose quite a bit inside WordPress (I know, horrible idea and the best way to ‘lose your work’ because of a lack of ‘auto-save’). Just sayin’. Anyway …Google Docs Research Tool has me all nerdily excited today.
Like the president of Hair Club for Men, when he talks about his hair replacement product, he’s not just the president …but he’s a member. And then they show his bald head.
Well, it’s kinda the same thing when I talk about iHeartRadio. Not only do I work for the company …but I’m also a totally huge fan. Even if I wasn’t working for the company, I’d still be a fan. I like that I can hear my local stations and local stations from around the country (makes me feel like I’m traveling or something), but I can also create my own custom station …or, just sit back and let some other music afficianado program a cool station.
Anyway, I’m pretty excited because, well, they just recently re-released the iPad app, and it’s totally awesome. And on Monday, the on-line version you use …it’s getting a makeover.
I hope they give it some bangs and a goat-tee.

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When I was in college I took a Sociology course that introduced me to the concept of Maslow’s “self-actualization”, which if you know me and how serious I took my studies, you should marvel I remember this at all. “Self-actualization” is supposed to be the most evolved form of human motivation and satisfaction and can only be achieved after years of personal and emotional growth. I remember the Prof’ talking about how it takes a lifetime to get to “self-actualization” and some people never achieve it, yet as I sat there doing the crossword in The State News and wearing my favorite flannel shirt (it was 1992 …it was all flannel shirts back then), I was like, “dude . . . I’m already self-actualized. I feel secure, fulfilled, and I think my life is perfect.”
I may have missed the point. I may have benefited from doing the assigned reading . . . or showing up on time to class . . . or coming to the class more often. I was a Millennial before Millennials were a thing. I was Gen X, and I was supposed to be full of angst, but I determined then and there I was “self-actualized” and I was as good as I’d ever get.
It was like a rare moment of clarity inside a 5-year college career that’s mostly a foggy memory. But Professor Voss (who’s since passed away) was the best Professor I ever had and his classes were like a combination of motivational speeches, fascinating psychology lectures, and inspiring life lessons. Don’t get me started on the concept of “rights of passage” and how important they are to culture and tradition and realizing a common good and common societal goals. See, Dad . . . your money wasn’t completely wasted (and either was I the entire time).
Anyway, since then I’ve always felt fairly self-actualized, even though I know it’s impossible and while I might think I’m operating on a higher emotional and intellectual plane, I’m probably not. I wonder sometimes if I could do more and achieve more if I exercised a little more humility and tried to grow and get better. Then I wonder, “but does anyone really drive that hard?” And then I get my answer when I read about a guy like Tom Izzo.
Often times I think you and I see really wealthy people and we think, “right place, right time,” or we think, “must be nice.” And I’m certain there are rich people who just sorta lucked into things. But the more I meet successful people, the more I seem to notice they’re all stuck in a lower stage or Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and they’re never satisfied. For a guy like Izzo, a guy with plenty of money in the bank, especially for a humble guy from humble roots in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula, a guy with a list of accomplishments in his field of work that make him one of the best of all time, he doesn’t even seem close to being self-actualized. If I were him, I’d probably start to take my foot off the gas pedal, I gotta admit. Yet every time I turn around, I hear about Izzo going right from a game to the airport and flying to Chicago to sit and watch a high-school sophomore or junior and talk to some coaches and parents, only to jump back on a plane to race back to East Lansing and coach his current team. And somewhere in there I’m guessing he must spend a few minutes with his wife and children. But how?
In essence, 100,000+ Spartans enjoy immense joy and satisfaction from our MSU basketball team because our coach hasn’t achieved self-actualization. We’re lucky he’s ours.
On Sunday, Wisconsin upset Ohio State and Izzo earned his 7th Big Ten Championship, and did it in a year nobody expected anything from his team. What did he tell his team?
“Whenever you accomplish one goal, there should be another one. I get paid to never be satisfied and I let the players know that. I tell them, `Those of you that are trying to please me, it ain’t going to happen. If you think I’m going to be off your butt until you leave here, you came to the wrong place.”
Yikes. Thanks, coach. What a buzz kill!
I read so many things that tell me “be happy” and “count your blessings” and “realize things could be worse.” Well, maybe today I’ll try and make myself miserable in the same way Izzo does and knock myself down a peg on the Maslow chart, and start to work towards true self-actualization. If I’m currently having some success and earning a little money writing, I should want more and I should want to write a best-seller. If I’m currently enjoying some nice success and and stability at my day job, maybe I need to focus on the parts of my job that I’m not very good at, and work to be the best in those areas. If I think I’m a pretty good Dad and husband, I’m going to have my family help me make a list of my faults and short-comings, and I’m going to try and be the Tom Izzo of fatherhood and marriage. What is the marriage and family-life equivalent of a Final Four and a Big Ten Championship?
Are you self-actualized? Or are you, like me, self-limiting and fooling yourself? I’m going to find out.
I talk too much and share too much. Recently I’ve been talking about an “anti-phlegm” diet (I’m quite the conversationalist) but it must be interesting enough people always ask me lots of questions. Either that or they just ask questions and are thinking, “how long will this idiot talk about his phlegm?” . . . and then they go home and laugh about me and that I talked about phlegm production and reduction for an entire hour.
Anyway, as is well documented on this blog where I talk about myself, I have a condition called Bronchiectasis. Among the more annoying things about it, it prevents my lungs from clearing mucus and phlegm like regular folk.
So for the curious phlegm cats out there, here’s my research. I’m not a doctor (I’m too handsome to be a doctor), but I present it to those who care. In fact there’s an entire book called “The North American Diet” that talks about how we eat in the U.S. and how it affects us – we’re fat, we all have diabetes and asthma, and those of us who live in the midwest always sound like we’re talking through our noses because our diet staples inflame our sinuses.
From Sebastian Pole, an herbal lovin’ dude, he provides the best list of rules and guidelines. Like …
He also suggests I follow some better eating habits, like . . .
Pretty easy, right? I’m being sarcastic. But the alternative is allergic reactions and bodily reactions that create more mucus and I go to bed everynight feeling like I’m half drowning.
Then there’s this article about foods that actually reduce mucus and another article about an anti-mucus diet. Two more articles I’ve Pinned to Pinterest are about mucus cleansing foods and another focused on Greek Medicine and a more ancient approach to mucus and phlegm reduction (I’ll admit, I didn’t read that whole Greek article, yet …it’s long). And don’t get me started on how mucus and phlegm are different . . . yes, they are . . . but not different enough that I’m going to focus only on one or the other.
Whether you have lung issues or just think, “hey, it’s allergies” . . . think about these tips and diet ideas. I’m totally gonna miss cookies and milk and I’ll cheat from time to time, but I don’t have as much ice cream and cookies and milk as I used to. In only the past 12 days, I’ve noticed an immediate and drastic difference.
When I think of most people I know, I think everyone would actually benefit from following a few of the bullet points above. Just sayin’.
What kinda blog is this, anyway? Is it about writing? Or lung function? Or family vacations and passions? It’s all of the above. Here’s to good lung health.
Does everyone realize “Pinterest” is a word made up of two words . . . “pin” and “interest?” I only ask because I’ve heard more than one person say, “do you use Pine-trest” and “Pint-arrest?” It’s actually a place where you “pin” your “interests” to some sort of dream board. Where was this thing when I was all into The Secret and making my dream boards? It would’ve been perfect.
But I’m totally over The Secret (man, that phenomenon was HUGE for a minute there, wasn’t it?).
Now I guess we all have to be into Pinterest. We have to use it because all our friends are using and if we don’t, we’re going to be totally lame. And experts in social media and “new things” say it could be a “Facebook killer” but so far, I’m not really seeing that. If anything, it could be a StumbleUpon killer. Or maybe something that kills your Google Reader (even though Twitter has essentially done that). I have to play with it a little more, but it looks like Facebook and Twitter, but only the part where you can share things you see on the Internet . . . and so far, it looks like mostly recipes.
Do you use Pinterest? Do you ‘Like’ it better than Facebook or Twitter? Or do you like it differently? How are you planning on using it to help your small business or support your hobby? Or is it just something you like to explore and waste some time on? Is it an extension of email (which is what I think Facebook and Twitter have become), or is it the equivalent of a good fiction novel and it’s just a break from the world?
And Pinterest gives me an embed code when I “pin” something. I wanted to see how that looked.
Source: rivals.yahoo.com via Don on Pinterest
I’m not a self-help guru, but I play one in secret, so here’s my advice . . . do you ever have one of those days where you feel like you’ve been shot out of a cannon? Like, you wake up and unlike most days, you don’t feel tired, or anxious, or hungover? Instead of thinking things like, “ugh …coffee” or “why didn’t I go to bed earlier, last night, like when I first started falling asleep watching the Super Bowl post game?” . . . instead you think, “I’m going to make breakfast for my whole family, and do 25 push-ups, and take the stairs at work, and I’m going to tell my wife I love her, and I’m going feed birds.”
You know you’re going to have those days. I don’t think anyone can live in a perpetual state like that. We all find ourselves, on other days, struggling to make it to lunchtime and all we can think about is that giant greasy burger and french fries we’re going to devour, even though we know we shouldn’t, because we know that in those 15 minutes it takes to eat our sack of Five Guys . . . wow, we’re gonna be soooooo happy.
And we ignore the reality that in about an hour after eating that 1/2 pounder, we’re going to be even more miserable.
But there are days …you think, “I could be President of the World if I could just maintain this level of intensity. What did I eat last night? What did I do differently last night and yesterday that made me feel this way?”
It’s my theory you’ll never know how to keep yourself always operating at that level. Life has ebbs and flows, and our energy, interest, and peak performance moments come and go.
My advice, however, is learn to recognize when you’re “hitting that zone” or “in the zone” and make plans for such moments. And when you find yourself feeling invincible, do the impossible for as long as that feeling lasts.
In the blurry, optimism fueled haze I’ve been operating in all day, I’ve told my best friend he and I are going to write a book together STARTING NOW! I told another friend of mine I’d write and do all his social media FREE for a month. I crossed more things off my to-do list at work this morning than I did all last week. I laid out a conversation agenda for my wife and I this evening, so we could discuss our Life Plan 2012 (yes, she is probably annoyed, but she’s learned to live with my moments of enlightenment). I ate a very sensible breakfast, an early lunch, and I’ll have a second lunch to re-stimulate my metabolism. I’m going for a run tonight. I’m going to write two chapters of the other book I’m helping write, and I’m going to schedule an entire weeks worth of social media and blogging for my 3 clients AND watch and write about The Bachelor for spunkybean.
It’s crazy. I feel awesome! I’ll probably work, write, and feel this way all the way until midnight or 1 a.m. and that will mean tomorrow I’m going to feel tired, overwhelmed by the tasks the Monday version of Don set in motion, and I won’t be able to muster up the same kick-ass energy.
For today – I’m going to capitalize on it. You can’t bottle it. You can’t store it in energy cubits. You simply have to recognize it when its happening, lasso it, and hang on and watch your best self bend spoons with your mind and climb Mt. Everest.
Huh? Maybe this is what they mean by “seize the day.”
Look at the two of us. Like twins. That’s my big brother and big “me” …back in college I may or may not have eaten entire pizzas in a single sitting. Actually, this is my “big brother” in the fraternal sense, and by “fraternal sense” I mean he was my big brother in my college fraternity. In college, when you pledge a fraternity, you are assigned a big brother who’s job it is to mold you and change you from an immature high-school kid into a fine, upstanding gentleman, ready for the corporate world and ready for life beyond school and college. Mostly, though, the big brother buys beer for you.
My big brother, however, didn’t just buy me beer. He did those other things and over these 20 years we’ve known each other, he’s been a great friend. Even as we’ve grown older and seen less of each other, I can get together with him and it doesn’t matter that we may not have talked for a year or so. I have a theory about friends and friendship – friends of any shape and form are great, but nothing beats an old friend. Someday …that’s going to be a famous quote.
My big brother and I have connected three times, now, in less than a week. He’s doing amazing things, naturally, because he’s an amazing guy, and somehow he thinks I can help him. Maybe. I’ve fooled people into thinking I know a little something about social media, blogging, and writing – so I’m going to advise him.
I’m excited. I don’t know where his latest adventure is going to take him, but I feel pretty stoked to be invited along. I hope the adventure involves zip-lines and hang gliders, but we’ll see. It might just involve blogging and Tweeting.
For a glimpse at the talent I’ve known he’s had for years, make sure you check out his photography site. And his blog. And when I tell you, ‘Like’ him on Facebook and ‘follow’ him on Twitter.
A few years ago, I felt I was very nearly at the top of my game. I would often times head out for a run and just see where the road would take me. I’d go 3, 4, or 8 miles if I felt like it. Sometimes I’d drop and do some push-ups, or I’d see a hill and sprint up it, or I’d run into town and charge up and down stairs in a parking structure there. I’d run when it was nearly 100-degrees, and I’d run when it was below zero. I’d swim a quarter-mile or a half-mile, and then towel off and ride on a bike for 10 or 20 miles. Why? Because I was a triathlete. I was a runner. I enjoyed the challenge of working towards something, of competing against myself and my past run and swim times, and most importantly, I just liked how I looked and felt. (And it was pretty awesome to be able to brag about it …because if there’s one thing I love doing, it’s bragging . . . and especially when it’s about myself)
But, things don’t always go exactly as planned. Somehow over the past 6 years, I’ve had some lung trauma caused by, and complicated by, an infection, scar tissue, and a condition my pulmonologist calls “bronchiectasis”. Yes, I have a pulmonologist I reference as “my pulmonologist.”
Bronchiectasis comes in many forms, but mostly I’ve determined it’s just annoying and, well … there. It won’t go away. My chest always feels just a little bit tight, and I’m never completely without a slight cough. There are good days and bad days – a good day is a day where I don’t cough and can just clear my throat, a bad day is a day I cough up some blood. But mostly, it’s just … there.
If I believe my doctors, then, yes, that’s what I have and I will just learn to live with it. And if I don’t believe my doctors, I need to wait for something to happen (like bleeding that won’t stop) and go back into the hospital so I can look them in the eye and say, “I told you so.” There’s a part of me that thinks (hopes) the doctors are wrong and I don’t have a condition that will simply be “there”, but maybe I have something else that can be cured.
However, as I charge toward my 39th birthday, which, if my math and calculations are correct, leads to my 40th birthday, I guess I should do something rather than nothing. Ever since I had my random flare-up back in September at Meet-the-Teacher Night at my kids’s school while vigorously talking about the upcoming MSU football season with my friend Tony, I’ve been stagnant.
I want to be awesome again, so I’m going to start small and work my way back up to awesomeness. And truth be told, if the rest of my life is relegated to brisk walking for 45-minutes a day and engaging in some Sit-and-be-Fit type exercises, and curling 4-pound weights . . . ya know what? I’ll still be healthier than if I’m doing nothing. Now imagine if I can start to eat right.
Yesterday was January 23rd, my Mom’s birthday. She passed away 7 1/2 years ago. She only lived to see her 58th year. It was unexpected and perhaps unavoidable, but we’ll never truly know. But if there’s even the slightest possibility that her life could’ve been extended with a little healthier eating and some brisk walking, well, then I shall not live my life and ignore her message she sends me from heaven or the lesson she might’ve given me by leaving us.
And then, there’s this Snapple bottle cap someone (my ex-sister-in-law Meg, actually) shared on Facebook which I just happened to see yesterday when all these emotions were going on. Maybe it’s all coincidence, or maybe it’s my Mom, again, telling me to get my act together and mix in a little light exercise.
I went to the church by my house last night and did some brisk walking side by side with 4 or 5 seniors who were also there trying to figure out a way to add a few more days to our all-to0-short lives. It felt good to get my heart pumpin’, my muscles pulsing, and my lungs opening, again. Here’s to exercise, and here’s to the rest of my awesome life.