Don Kowalewski
Writer. Ad Sales and Marketing. Social Media Content Creator. Aeropress Coffee. Makes the best salsa in the world.
Things I Did: Bought a Book Entitled “Achieve Anything in Just One Year”
I bought this book called Achieve Anything in Just One Year: Be Inspired to Live Your Dreams and Accomplish Your Goals by Jason Harvey. I didn’t know what to expect. It’s a very different approach, and I like it.
Essentially, you brainstorm a bunch of goals, like “write a book” or “run a marathon” or “learn guitar” or “launch a business” and then he gives you daily tasks with the idea that, if you do the one thing he asks you to do every day, you’ll achieve the thing you want to do.
I’m on Day 5. It’s not easy, but I’m looking forward to where he pushes me, the reader.
Good book and I’d recommend you buy it. Kinda tough to check-out of the library because you’ll need it for 365 days. My library only lets me keep things for a few weeks.
I’ll probably tell you about what I’m doing every day on Twitter if you want to follow-along @donkowalewski.
Things I Did: Signed a Ghost-Writing Client
I once wrote a short diet book, but the author never used it.
I’ve written articles about talking to people in the afterlife, on mobile phone usage in third world nations, and “green living” in Manhattan.
This “ghost-writing” thing is something I stumbled upon and I love it. If you have a blog and need entries, if you’d like to write something for a magazine and your article needs a little spit shine, or if you have an idea for a book but are intimidated by the process of writing it, organizing it, and getting the story out of your brain and onto paper …call me.
Last week I talked to a gentleman with an amazing, heartbreaking, and incomprehensible story that he felt needed to be told. He’d hammered out various details and long sections, but wasn’t sure what to do with it. I know exactly what he should do. He agreed with my concept and story structure, and yesterday he hired me to write it for him.
I hope someday I’ll be able to brag about this project and tell you the title and plot, but sometimes ghost writers just can’t tell anyone what’s up. But I’ll say this …if I can capture his voice, pain, and the turmoil involved, this will be an amazing book. I’m thrilled to be a part of something like this.
Now, if you need me at any time during the next 120-days, I’ll be at my writing desk toiling away. And occasionally I’ll be on Twitter procrastinating at @donkowalewski.
Things I Wonder: Am I Among the Top 1%?
Am I among the very elite at any particular thing? Are you? Aren’t we all trying to be elite at something? Or is it enough for most of us to be very good? Is it ‘OK’ to be ‘OK’.
As I’ve reflected recently, I’ll never be the best point guard in the NBA. I’ll never be the fastest man alive. I’ll never be considered the world’s foremost authority on wine.
So why bother?
Seth Godin keeps pointing out, over and over again, that the world has changed and you can create your own tribe. So, maybe I’m not the most brilliant mind in writing, social media, or marketing. But I’ve begun forming a tribe and in this tribe, I’m very close to being #1. I’m not the worlds greatest husband or father, I can assure you, but in the world where people call me “husband” and “dad”, I’m aiming to stay on top of the rankings (currently ranked #1).
The point is, while there might be an elite 1% in any given discipline, endeavor, profession, or field, not everyone needs the top guy. There’s an entire world filled with the 99% of the rest of us who should find each other and “wow” each other.
And if you do things with an eye on greatness, never sacrificing quality, never missing deadlines, and always following through, who’s to say you’re not “elite”?
Start being an elitist. Start acting like you’re the very best as what you do. Keep doing it and, chances are, you just might be.
What do you do at an elite level? I think I’m among the best at Tweeting about what I’m eating and what I’m doing at random times. Seriously, follow me @donkowalewski and you’ll see …nobody is a bigger expert on myself than I am.
Things I Love: Other Bloggers
It’s week three of my #ShareSunday experiment. I had to pick a new #hashtag because #SS is already pretty popular on Twitter, and since I can’t figure out what #SS means (though I’ve concluded it’s not Nazi related, which is a relief), I’ll just write shorter Tweets and go with #ShareSunday.
#ShareSunday is where I applaud other blogs I read, hoping you’ll take a look, and be inspired by them, too. Usually it’s three blogs, but this week, I’m only talking about two.
Jeff Goins: Writer (you might have to try this URL: http://goinswriter.com/clutter/)
I’ve heard it said dozens of times, but if you want to be a writer, you have to read. First, read the type of books like you want to write and second, read about other writers. Luckily for the modern writer, most authors have their own blogs where they “brain spill”. That’s what I call what is written between projects and books. Think of a writer like an Olympic athlete. We see them swimming and sprinting every four years. In between those times, we don’t think about them. But trust me, they’re out there, liftings weights, running, waking up early, skipping sweets and candy, hoping to stay in perfect shape for another shot at medaling or being invited to the next Olympics. Writers are like that. In between critically acclaimed best-sellers, they’re up early writing, jotting down ideas, and hoping to get back onto a best-seller list again.
Well, reading Jeff Goin’s blog is like having a training partner. He’s an accomplished writer, and I’m not really his peer, but his blog doesn’t make him sound like he’s dictating his next book to a paige he hired to record and transcribe his every word while he sails around the world. He’s slugging it out, writing daily, little by little, and sharing his advice as he discovers it.
Earlier this week, I wrote something for my wife on her 40th birthday, but I almost didn’t …until I read what Jeff Goins said. He said, “learn to write for yourself.” I’ve always kinda felt this way, but assumed it was a completely self-defeating way to write. It’s like saying, hey, I’m going to write about myself and when I don’t sell any books and nobody reads my blog, I’ll blame the lack of readers on the fact they don’t ‘get’ me.”
Message received, Jeff. Now, I’m not going to start blogging about how long my shower was this morning (3 minutes 14 seconds, by the way), but I’ll write what I think is important, interesting, or funny and see if readers like me for me.
Here I Go With All My Thoughts by Megan
Every blog starts somewhere. Every writing life starts with the discipline of writing, which involves learning to observe life, notice things others maybe don’t realize they’re noticing, and learning to express yourself in an unguarded way. Megan started her blog, I wanna say, 2 or 3 years ago inspired by the passing of a dear friend, and she wrote it like therapy (that’s how I saw it) and it’s grown into so much more. Part journal, part creative writing, part motivation …what it’s grown into is a story of a Millenial in her early 20s navigating life. I think everyone wants to write a blog and immediately have 1,000 readers and be asked to be on a radio show to talk about the book she’s releasing, but it doesn’t happen that way. Instead, it starts with hard work and being there nearly every day with something to say. She writes from the heart. Her struggles, challenges, and triumphs are familiar, I think, to almost everyone. Megan doesn’t hide from the bad and sad moments, doesn’t sugar coat her feelings, and is proud of her faith and her friends. Reading it reminds me that blogging and writing must be done in your voice.
As a blogger, I like to read other blogs. Big, small, funny, deep, meaningful, and some with pictures of cups of coffee. I hope you’ll add these to your blog roll and read them from time to time.
I sometimes Tweet some other blogs, so if you want to know more blogs I’m reading on a daily basis, follow @donkowalewski.
Things I Love: Great Coffee
I remember it like it was yesterday. I was sitting at a coffee shop run by the biggest coffee brand in the world (which I won’t mention by name) and thinking, “is this really the best coffee can taste? Burnt and acidic?” And with that question and caffeine coursing through my body, I vowed to figure out a better way to enjoy coffee.
*** Hey, you can brag about your life-changing moments, I’ll brag about mine.
I’d had some scattered “good coffee moments” in my life, like after a good meal at an expensive restaurant, and once while visiting a friend somewhere and he made us coffee in a French Press. I felt great shame for spending more than $2 on a cup of coffee at this big chain, and it wasn’t even good. Basically, I was paying $2 for convenience, and it wasn’t actually convenient. I regularly waited in line for the same amount of time it would take to brew an entire pot at home.
I won’t chronicle my entire coffee journey, here, but I soon discovered the Aeropress and that I actually think an Americano (hot water poured over a strong espresso) is far superior to any other cuppa joe, and I learned about Chazzano in Ferndale, run by a man who turned his passion into his livelihood, and in the process roasts the best beans anywhere in Detroit. Period. And no matter what type of coffee you like or your brewing method, he’ll make sure your tastebuds sing.
Sad as it may seem, part of my looking forward to a three day weekend is so that I can slow down and enjoy good coffee every morning. Slowly. Without rushing around getting ready for work and staying out of the way while my wife and kids scramble to get out the door and to school on time.
Some drink coffee for utility. To keep going. I actually enjoy it better when it makes me slow down. I hope you take a few moments this Labor Day weekend to slow down. Maybe enjoy a great cup of coffee. I’ll Tweet about my coffee all weekend, if that sounds interesting to you. I’m at @donkowalewski.
Speaking of Frank at Chazzano, you gotta watch this. Then, pay attention to his weekend hours (Friday, August 30: 7am-4pm; Sunday, September 1: 9am-6pm; Monday, Labor Day, September 2: 10am-3pm) and make your way over there this weekend.
Things I Do: Coach Soccer
The soccer season is back. Am I talking about Barclay’s Premier League, which started last Saturday morning and brought with it 9 hours of glorious futbol on various NBC channels? Yes. That’s part of it. But the next part is even better …my daughter’s team had their first practice, last night, and I’m an assistant coach.
Some people reluctantly raise a hand to coach when their kids are little, especially when the sport is soccer. Soccer has a bigger following now compared to when I was younger and nobody’s father knew a thing about the sport, but it’s still a sport unknown to most men my age. Men who are fathers themselves. It’s never a problem finding a former basketball, football, or baseball player to coach a youth team. And most of the dads helping out likely played those sports a little bit, themselves. That’s not the case with soccer.
Except with me. I’m that guy. I played two sports as a kid. Basketball and soccer. Genetically, however, I was never destined to be a basketball player. Nowadays, I might have struggled with soccer, too. But in the late 80s and early 90s, soccer was a great sport for a kid standing 5’4″ and weighing in under 150 pounds.
I never thought I’d enjoy anything more than playing soccer, but I think I’ve found it – coaching soccer. Maybe I like coaching, or maybe I’m just really lucky that for the past 5 years I’ve watched little pee-wee girls go from playing soccer because their parents forced them to play something, to seeing this same group thrive, develop a competitive streak, and love soccer. They listen. They improve. They don’t like when they lose. When you’re a coach, regardless of the sport, those are the intangibles that make the long non-paid hours worth it.
It’s one thing to love something, like soccer. But it’s another thing to help other people see what an amazing game it is. Like with parenting …manners and academics are important, and when my kids show me it’s important to them, it warms my heart. And for me, it’s that way with social media, if I can make an aside. So many people tell me social media is a waste of time. I love when I can show them otherwise and if you use it the right way, it can be highly rewarding, engaging, and informative.
That’s how I’ve come to feel about soccer and the kids I coach. If somehow my enthusiasm became contagious, and it’s part of the reason this big group of girls love soccer, too … that’s what it’s all about.
I hope you got a real “kick” out of this blog entry. That was a pun, right? I sometimes write puns on Twitter and you can follow me @donkowalewski.
I know there’s no such things as Daddy or Dad Blogs, but this is what they’d sound like if there were some. And they’d sound like this Huffington Post article from @stevewiens. Hilarious.
Things I Love: My Wife and Her Birthday
Yes, I’m going to do it. I wasn’t going to write a blog entry about my wife, but then I read Jeff Goins‘s blog post Three Ways to Write for Yourself, and I changed my mind.
It’s not like a thousand people read this every day. And even if they did, I would write this anyway.
My wife turned 40 today. I’ve known her for 25 of those years, I’ve been in love with her for 22 of those years, been with her for 21 of those years, and I’ve been married to her for 16 1/2 of those years.
Is it “true love”? It must be. I know for me it is. For so many reasons, I can’t imagine loving her more than I do, and I’ll never figure out why she loves me. She’s amazing. She’s committed and consistent and fair and strong and honest (truly, she never lies, ever) and funny and way smart and works hard and is a great mother and an amazing daughter and though sometimes quick with a temper, who can blame her? I do that to people. Yet, she never waivers. She loves me despite the fact I’m not always consistent or fair or honest or smart and I slip up from time to time.
Because she loves me, even despite six months ago doing the craziest thing I’ve ever done, and because she’s so great, I just have to accept the fact she sees a greatness in me I don’t even see in myself.
And isn’t that the best definition of love? I mean, with her, what I love about her is obvious. I’m not trying to put a spit shine on anything. For me, I always feel like a work in progress, and she’s making sure I get wherever I’m going. She makes me a better person.
I turned forty last month, and now she’s “joined the club” as everyone pointed out on Facebook. For me, it was lonely and gave me a bit of anxiety. Seeing her gracefully and beautifully flow into her fifth decade, totally on top of her game and comfortable in her skin, inspires me.
I wish there was a gift that could capture how happy I hope this birthday is, and how much happier I hope all her next birthdays will be. She’ll have to settle for a rolling cooler and an exercise-activity-sleep monitor as gifts representing my love for her (and 3 losing lottery tickets …dang!).
So, happy birthday to the best gift I was ever given. I hope someday to be your greatest gift.
I’ve never Tweeted about my wife. Not sure why. Seriously. Don’t believe me. Follow me at @donkowalewski.
Things I (Will) Have: Two Resumes
I have this idea that I should have two resumes. One for the life I have and have lived for 20 years, and one for the life I want.
And it’s not as if my better resume has me living the life I imagine Justin Timberlake has. No, my better resume says I’m a sought after speaker, published author, and social media thought leader. I’m not trying to be Tony Robbins, Stephen King, or Seth Godin (trust me, those are leaders in each of the fields I hope to excel in). I’m trying to be me. I’m trying to let my true, joyful self out of his box.
My non-work resume, don’t get me wrong, is pretty awesome. Three kids. Two cars and a house. A great wife of 16 years. I just need to add to it “goes to bed happy” and “wakes up a conqueror.”
Have you looked at your résumé lately? Ready to update it? Better yet, ready to invent a new one?
Ever wonder what I’m doing on some random Saturday morning? @donkowalewki is where you’ll find the answer.
Things I Love: Other Bloggers
The tradition continues. It’s only the second week, but to do something two weeks in a row like I said I was going to do? It feels like a major victory.
My invented tradition is #ShareSunday, or #SS if you’re going to play along. My idea is to highlight some of the best blogs I discovered during the week or to highlight my favorite blogs – blogs I frequent. Last week it was Write Now! Coach, my sister’s MomRunsHalf blog, and Real Life Husband.
This week, I’m going to tell you about the head of the MSU Alumni Association, Seth Godin, and spunkybean.
Scott was introduced to me by a friend, Jeff S., while at work. My friend and I are huge Michigan State Spartan fans and when he learned I love writing and social media he said, “you need to meet my friend Scott,” who just so happened to be the head of the MSUAA. Scott spent years in the private sector and I can only assume he was a beloved boss, valued and respected co-worker, and visionary. His weekly blog is always there and his advice is timeless and perfect regardless of your walk of life. His blog entries have been converted and re-purposed into two books. He’s like a mini-Seth Godin (see next paragraph). Scott reminds me that it’s OK to pursue your passions and dreams. He obviously (a) loves writing, (b) loves the science of motivation and management, (c) loves being a Spartan, and (d) loves sharing the music he loves with anyone who cares to listen (shame on me for not downloading his podcast, yet). Every Sunday night, without fail, he blogs something and it gets my week jump-started.
I’m going to tell you about this guy as I’ve come to know him. Maybe this won’t be his actual story, but I think it’s close. Seth Godin is a major player in advertising, branding, and blogging. He’s written multiple books, all of which are fairly brilliant. The only thing about marketing and branding that never changes is that it’s always changing. Seth saw the change a’ comin’, and he made himself a thought-leader. He did it through this blog. Through consistency. His ideas were so great, people started begging him to teach them. He proves the theory – content is king. Consistency is queen. Do these two things, and you’ll build yourself a kingdom, no matter what you’re doing. In a world where everyone will tell you, “oh, you have to be optimized and you need keywords and embedded links to rank on Google”, Seth proved them all wrong. You need a story. Tell your story, and tell it often, and people will hear it. Heck, look at his blog’s URL …it’s the same blog he started with. His entries aren’t full of hyperlinks and pictures and trackbacks. He just tells us a story about how marketing can work, and you’ll want to read it every day.
His latest book, We Are All Weird, is waiting at the library for me, today, and I’m going to ride my bike up there and grab it this afternoon.
Many of you are probably rolling your eyes, right about now. “Don,” you ask? “Seriously, you’re going to tell us one of your favorite blogs is spunkybean, which is your own blog?” Well, yes, I am. But not for the reasons you think. It’s a success story in spite of me. It’s a success story because of EJ and Myndi, the co-authors who refuse to surrender, no matter what. And that, my friends, is how you succeed as a writer and blogger. spunkybean’s also a success because of Mike W., who taught himself all the back-end stuff (like SEO and meta-data) so EJ and Myndi could focus on writing about things they love …television and TV shows. 
Mark my words …before it’s all said and done, EJ and Myndi are going to be full-time entertainment writers. spunkybean was founded 6 years ago by a friend of mine. He read my blog entries on my personal blog about American Idol. He said, “hey, I’m creating a pop-culture website and you can write your blog entries there.” I said, “yes.” Then I recruited a few other writers, and snagging EJ and Myndi was one of the more (only) brilliant moves I’ve ever made. You can’t have a TV-related blog if you only love one show (which, for me, was American Idol, still is Survivor, and to a lesser extent, The Bachelor and The Bachelorette). EJ and Myndi are perfect examples of people who write about what they love. So what if it’s TV and everything that’s ever existed on TV. They aren’t alone. And with their content, and Mike’s SEO stuff, nearly 10,000 readers stop by every month to hear what EJ has to say about Batman and Venture Brothers, and what Myndi loves about Dancing With the Stars, Big Brother, and anything else awesome on TV.
Why you should read it? Because you’ll see what true passion and love looks like. Read what I said about Seth Godin, again, and you’ll see …a blog can succeed without banner ads and SEO tricks …it just needs content born of passion, enthusiasm, and love.
There you have it. Three blogs that kick some serious butt. Three blogs I read and that make me a better blogger (and, yes, I still blog at spunkybean from time to time).
Thanks for reading. Wanna know how I can say anything in 140-characters or less? Follow me and talk to me on Twitter @donkowalewski.
Things I Have: Bronchiectisis
It flared up again last night, which makes that the third time this summer. Logically, I’ll simply make a note of it, log it in my journal, and rest easy knowing that when I calmed my breathing, sat very still, and relaxed, it passed. I coughed and wheezed for about two hours. Laid on my side, then the other side, then my chest, and slowly started taking bigger and bigger breaths.
Bronchiectisis is, for those reading about it for the first time, a lung disease that most often happens as the result of a lung trauma. For me, that was a really bad bacterial infection and then a burst blood vessel (these things might’ve been related, might not have been, tough to tell). Bronchiectisis is a little different for everyone who has it. Some people cough up phlegm every day …and lots of it. For me, it’s when the air changes or allergens are high. I almost should’ve expected it …the weather got hot and humid, I’ve been doing lots and lots of talking at work (“talking” seems to effect it), and then I went to a Detroit Tigers game and cheered and screamed. All day I go into the A/C and then out into the humidity and heat, and back into the A/C.
The bad news is, it keeps happening. The good news is, it passes.
Now I’ll start to examine what I ate, how much I ate, and see if there was anything, besides the quality of the air I breathe, that might’ve made this happen.
It’s a glorious adventure and scientific study I’m conducting daily on myself.
I know this blog post isn’t exciting to everyone, but I have a few fellow Bronchiectisis friends who read and we bounce ideas off each other. Like so many things in life, it’s more fun and easier to beat something, or accomplish something, when you have support. Simply to get some encouragement from someone goes a looooong way. People join running clubs, because they all benefit by pushing each other. People sign-up for, and pay for, 5K, 10Ks, Marathons, and Triathlons. Why? Because doing something alone isn’t as fun. I mean, I don’t know if you realize this, but you can run a 10K any time you want. For free.
But that’s not what human beings are built for. We train alone, but we celebrate with others.
Am I “celebrating” my bloody lung? Not exactly, but I’m bolstered and encouraged when a few fellow lung warriors come around the blog and say, “me too” and “it’s normal” and “hang in there.”
Who have you encouraged, today?
I don’t Tweet about all my bodily functions, but definitely my lungs. So, if you want to follow along, I’m @donkowalewski.
Don Kowalewski 