Don Kowalewski
Writer. Ad Sales and Marketing. Social Media Content Creator. Aeropress Coffee. Makes the best salsa in the world.
Things I’m Doing: 44 Days of Ties (Day 4)
Today brings us yet another tie offering from Express. Some will say, “only high-school kids and 20-something, bar-going hipsters get ties from Express,” but I say phooey on that. I buy most of my dress shirts from Express. First, I like their color palette, but more than that, I like their no-pocket dress shirts. As a short guy, having a breast pocket on a dress shirt doesn’t always work. On a normal size guy who stands, say, 5’10”, the breast pocket is on the breast. But on me, a guy checking in at a towering 5’5″, the breast pocket usually falls at about the bottom of the rib cage and makes me look shorter than I already am …like I’m wearing my big brothers hand-me-downs. Funny story …I once had a shirt with a breast pocket so low it was nearly tucked into the waist-band of my slacks.
I also like Express shirts because they have different cuts (1MX, Modern Fit, Slim Cut, etc) to match all body types. And they sell ’em 2 for $20 sometimes.
Anyway, this particular shirt-tie combo was bought as a set. The shirt is light blue with thin brown stripes. The tie has brown dots (two shades) on a brown tie. And each dot is outlined in a subtle Royal Blue which, I think, really makes the blue in the shirt (and the blue in my eyes) pop.
Today I tied a Double-Windsor, hence the bigger knot. I like the perfect triangle a Double-Windsor makes and it looks good on days like this when I opt to button the shirt all the way up to the top button.
40 more ties still to come, and I’m going to start paying more attention to the backgrounds for my pictures …so you’ll get ties, a story, and hopefully a landmark or something equally as interesting as my daily tie story. Today’s background is the view out the window of our “team room.” Given that I sit a windowless cube with no sight lines of a window or daylight, I don’t mind meetings.
Things I’m Doing: 44 Days of Ties (Day 3)
You’ll notice there’s been a bit of a hiccup in my Tie-a-Day experiment. Well …that’s because I was on vacation …for a week. And you know who didn’t know I was on vacation? Home invaders and cat burglars, that’s who! Woo hoo! I outsmarted them by NOT taking to my blog and social media and shamelessly telling everyone about my vacation and taking pictures of the sunsets, sunrises, and all other exotic things I was doing while enjoying some R&R in Northern Michigan. Remember, there was that one story about that one person who’s home was robbed while he or she was on vacation, and it was because of their Facebook status messages that thieves knew of his or her absence? Yes, well since then everyone who knows me implores me to tone down the live updates on my Facebook, Twitter, and blog …and Tumblr …and LinkedIn. So, that’s what I did and instead, even though I was away, I’d post random stuff like, “is vacuuming his living room” or “just bumped his elbow on his kitchen chair” or “is sure bored of the same day to day routine of work and stuff” …see? So clever. Burglars were probably, like, “ain’t no way I’m breaking into that dude’s house …he’s sooooo home.”
My secret, however, is that I thoroughly screen all my Facebook friends and Twitter followers via background checks. Sorry, Aunt Margo.
Back to the ties. Yesterday, Tuesday, I was back in my little office cubicle sporting a tie …another solid one-color tie on a pattern shirt. It’s so trendy but know this …it’s the last solid-color tie in my wardrobe. From here on out, you’ll be seeing patterned ties and solid colored shirts.
This solid-light-blue tie is one of my favorites. It’s a hearty stock and ties so easily every single time. Being light blue and a little shiny, it’s only drawback is how quickly it shows a stain or a greasy finger print. I mean, ties were pretty much invented to hide small drips of food and the ugly buttons on a shirt, so a tie that doesn’t hide anything sort of defeats the purpose. But I’m the type of guy who gladly sacrifices fashion over function and I think my first day back to work was a little better because of that fashion sense. Everyone kept saying, “welcome back” and I’m pretty sure they meant, “welcome back, Don’s Tie Project.”
It’s good to be back.
Things I’m Doing: 44 Days of Ties (Day 2)
Day 2 comes at a good time because this particular tie was bought to coordinate with a pink shirt. That pink shirt fell victim to a red wine accident and this pink tie hasnt been worn in over a year. I haven’t replaced the pink shirt because I think the pink shirt trend is nearly over.
This tie has a really cool, old-school paisley pattern that reminds me of all the ties my Polish family members used to wear back in the day to weddings, Christmas and Easter Masses, and any “fancy” occasion. Paisley patterns just seem old Europe to me.
The tie is from Express and is a pretty good quality silk, but it’s dimple resistant. It’s bizarre. For those who don’t know, when you tie a good tie, right in the middle of the tie, just below the knot, there should be a concave wrinkle, called the “dimple.” See Day 1. Or look at the picture at the right I stole from Jim Skeen’s blog. My tie from yesterday makes a dimple super easy.
I think I could’ve fixed it and gotten a dimple if I had tied a Double-Windsor, but a Double-Windsor knot is way too bulky for an open-collar and a casual Friday.
I’m wearing this tie on “casual Friday” and paired it with a white shirt (sleeves rolled up) and beaten-up Levis 559s. I call it the “1980s Stand-Up Comic” look, or the “Presidential Candidate Visits a Factory on the Campaign Trail” look.
2 down, and 42 ties to go. Who’s having fun?
Things I Love: My New Merrells and My Friend Kurt
I hope nobody reads this entry or watches the videos. So there I was, bouncing around Facebook as I’m apt to do, and my sister gets to talking about needing a new pair of running shoes like people sometimes talk about on Facebook. I’m sure I commented something witty under her post when, all of a sudden, my friend Kurt says, “if only you knew someone who worked for Merrell and could get you shoes at cost.”
I knew Kurt was awesome in many ways, but wasn’t aware of his awesomeness in regards to foot apparel. So I comment back, “well, if you could get me a pair of their barefoot running shoes, I’d scream like a teenage girl.” And with that …a deal was made. 10 days later, well …the videos should speak for themselves.
THANK …YOU …KURT!
p.s. My wife thinks this should be a Merrell promotion or ad campaign called something like, “give someone some shoes” and all that person would have to do is scream and show how excited they are. Anyone working for a shoe company who wants me to head up that effort and make it all viral, and social, and stuff …I’m in.
Again …THANK …YOU …KURT! And if you’re wondering, they’re the Merrell Road Glove J38395 …the Merrell barefoot running shoe, and they’re glorious!
The Shoes Arrive
The Shoes Make Me Celebrate
Things I’m Doing: 44 Days of Ties (Day 1)
I’m about to commit to something greater than anything I’ve ever done. Actually, it’s not that great, but you might be entertained. I’m “bringing stuffy back.” Yes …the return of the tie. In 2012 …nobody except lawyers and TV anchors seem to be wearing ties anymore. There was a time when everyone wore ties …always. And if you dared show up to work (at least my work) without a tie, oh… the looks you’d get.
Now I’ve got 44 ties hanging in my closet collecting dust and I feel sorry for those ties. My wife picked many of them and really worked hard to coordinate ties and shirts. Some date back to when my Mom was alive and she really loved buying me shirts and ties. Some are skinny. Some are cheap. Some are, um, 15 years old.
Today, I’m sporting a modified version of the new pattern-shirt-solid-color-tie trend. It’s definitely a pattern-shirt, and nearly a solid-color tie. I figured I could get away with it because if you glance quick or walk by me in the hall, it just looks like a dark green tie. The shirt really isn’t meant to be worn with a tie …but screw it. See, the collar doesn’t have any collar stays, and it’s not a button-down, so it sorta does this crazy flying wing thing.
The tie is a Versa (no, you haven’t heard of it) and it’s a very, very cheap tie. Shirt is from Macy’s. They were not bought together but pair up as part of one of those happy accidents where a tie goes with some shirts you never expected it to. The shirt it came with was light green and I got rid of that shirt two years ago when I lost weight and started to look silly in 16 inch neck shirts.
I know what you’re saying …holy crap, Don will blog about anything. How obnoxious. But I bet you can’t wait until tomorrow. Here’s a teaser …jeans, white shirt, tie …I call it the “80s Stand-Up Comic” look. See you then.
Things I Think: Maybe I’ll Do Something Different Every Day?
Sometimes I think my rambling blog needs at least a little organization, so I was thinking of naming the days …like “Social Media Sunday” and “Motivational Mondays”. That way you can check into my blog when you know I’m hitting on a topic you like. “Me, Me, Me Mondays?” That has a ring.
Try some of these on for size…
“Selfish Sundays”
“Me, Me, Me Mondays”
“Talk About Don Tuesdays”
“Writing Wednesdays”
“Thinking Thursdays”
“Family Fridays”
“Silly Saturdays”
See where I’m going? Like, this past weekend my 9 1/2 year-old swam in her first swim finals and she amazes me, even though at times she frustrates me. She’s combative so while she’s arguing every point and constantly acting like she’s failing and can’t find the strength to do anything or succeed, she actually never really talks herself out of anything. In fact, it’s quite the opposite …to hear her talk, she’s not good at anything, doesn’t really love what she’s doing, and she’s so impatient and hyper, there’s no way she could be achieving great things. But, behind that outward persona, she never misses a dance class, a soccer practice or game, rarely misses school, never skips her homework, and this summer, she was in the pool every day working and swimming. Her two events all season were backstroke and freestyle. Backstroke …eh. I mean, she did improve, but it was more exciting to watch her swim freestyle.
So, she’s been working and working. Her first meet she swam her 50 meter freestyle in 1:04. In the next few meets she burst into the :59-second range, jumped down to the :58-second range, and back up. So before Saturday’s “B Finals”, as they’re called, and coming off four days of flu/fever, we implored her to eat right the night before, go to bed early like coach said, and then wake up and eat right all day. We told her to remember what coach said about a “good start” and technique, and not breathing down the home stretch.
What I’m saying is …my daughter inspires me. She inspires me because she’s honest to a fault, kind (including 80% of the time to her siblings), and she works hard even though there are tears and arguments all along the way. But she never stops.
So, here, is why I’m so proud of her and why she inspires me …her final swim of the 2012 season …:57-seconds. That’s my girl in the swim lane closest to the camera. And I’m sorry …I don’t know why I shot it in portrait mode. Oh, and I don’t know who that crazy lady screaming my daughter’s name was, but let’s just say, when my daughter made the turn at 28-seconds, the crazy screaming lady and I both knew she could turn in her best time of the year and give herself a nice reward for all her hard work.
We’ll call today “Triumphant Tuesdays”. I like that.
Things I Love: Helping People
Today I’ll have two meetings and three conversations regarding blogging, writing, and social media. I’m certainly not an expert and haven’t turned my blog into a household name, nor have I written a best seller based on the massive loyal following I’ve acquired through years of writing about American Idol and The Bachelor over at spunkybean.com. But I really like doing it and I learn a little bit more every day.
I’ve learned enough, I guess, that other people who don’t blog or Tweet or engage in conversations on Facebook wonder, hey, how does all this work?
My latest pet project will be for my friend Nick, a quadriplegic who’s been in a wheel-chair since he was 20 as a result of a gymnastics accident. Thing is, his drive and his refusal to let his chair limit him sometimes makes me forget he’s in a wheelchair. If that sounds harsh, it’s not meant to …it’s inspiring …trust me. Travel? He does it. Skydive? He does it. Scuba dive? That, too. In fact, he’s had more worldwide adventures in his 23 years paralyzed than many people have in a lifetime. In a word …he’s living!
So now he’s launching a blog to chronicle his past adventures and start planning new ones. His site is Off the Accessible Path (it’s a play on words around the phrase “off the beaten path”). I love it. In fact, in speaking with him last night, as he was explaining he doesn’t really want to make any money off the site, just wants to inspire others in wheelchairs, show that anything can be done if you put your mind to it, and hopefully help others plan big adventures, I was inspired. Not to skydive (I’m a chicken), but to keep pursuing my dreams and helping others achieve there’s.
Thanks, Nick. Thanks for reaching out to me and flattering me with an opportunity to be a part of something I think can be really great.
Things I Love: Holy cow! Voice to text really works!!!
So I wanted to see if I could really write a blog entry using iPhone voice to text technology. This entry is composed completely via my voice and not typing a single thing on a keyboard.
Pretty much, I’m living in the future and anyone still using a keyboard to type is living in the past.
However, it’s not as easy to talk versus write for a writer. There’s something completely organizational about typing and putting things down on paper or on text format versus speaking.
But I’ll learn.
That’s all I’ve got for now. If you are a writer and have an iPhone or I assume an iPad 2 or 3 has the same technology, try it. I never realized what that little microphone symbol was on the iPhone keyboard right down near the spacebar. On occasion I’ve bumped it with my thumb and didn’t know what it was prompting me to do.
Now I know.
Have a great weekend.
Oh, and here’s a picture of the final present of I Love Don Week, which was an all you can eat crab leg pig-out session with my dad on our birthday. Thanks, Dad!
Things I Love: I Love Don Week (Epilogue)
Congratulations to everyone who made “I Love Don Week 2012” the best “I Love Don Week” of all time. There’s so many people to thank, I don’t know where to begin. And, because this blog is about me, thanking other people would take the focus off of me and I’m not sure that’s the best idea for this blog.
Lead primarily by my wife, and my Dad, here’s the final tally.
o two meat thermometers for better grilling
o an outdoor utility cart/table/cutting board for grilling
o Poland’s Euro/World Cup futbol jersey
o date night at Treat Dreams (in Ferndale)
o USA Soccer warm-up jacket
o scratch n win lottery tickets, which netted $26
o sunglasses (purchased with the lottery ticket winnings)
o Adidas soccer sandals
o double burger-press
o Thai spices
As temps soared across the nation this past week and records were set, I think it’s safe to say the biggest story is the record setting “I Love Don Week” haul of gifts. Plus, I’ve never had so many birthday well-wishers and I think the decade I’ve spent talking about and promoting “I Love Don Week” and marketing my birthday and my brand speaks to the incredible amount of attention I got yesterday on the big day. I don’t have statistics from 10 or 20 years ago, but I’m confident my birthday wasn’t recognized by 300+ people as it was yesterday. It’s interesting because many people say social media is “silly” or “selfish” or “a plague on society” or “a complete waste of time” and “unnecessary” and “leading us to a society of egocentric behavior and narcissism” and …well, you get my point. But I argue the opposite. All joking aside, who doesn’t like a little birthday wish every now and then? Who doesn’t like a little recognition for a great accomplishment? And if you ask me, “who cares about what sandwich I had for lunch?” I’ll answer, “more people than you realize.”
I often hear, “social media …puh …if I want to talk to someone or keep in touch, I’ll call them.” Truth is …no you won’t. Nobody will. And nobody ever did. It’s OK. It’s impossible to keep up with everyone and everything, including birthdays, births, marriages, graduations, and deaths. Social media, and specifically Facebook, makes it possible. Yes, I want to know when an old friend has a baby …and so do alotta people. Yes, I want to see my friends new home and be happy for them. Yes, I want to know how my friend’s wife’s chemo treatments are going. Yes, I want to know when my nieces and nephews make the honor roll, win a championship, or “chill with their BFFs” and no, I don’t understand their inside jokes, youthful humor, or their music (ok, yes I do love their music), but it’s fun to see it all.
Facebook and social media makes it all possible.
I’m sad “I Love Don Week” only comes once a year, but I look forward to next year and setting new records.
Things I Don’t Do: I Don’t Have a Niche.
Sometimes I wonder why this blog doesn’t have 10,000 readers and why I’m not already a highly sought after writer, speaker, and humorist. It’s either (a) I rarely post entries, (b) most people don’t want to read about “Don Kowalewski” and his rambling thoughts, or (c) I’m actually dead but because Haley Joel Osment is still talking to me, I think I’m alive and blogging.
That was a Sixth Sense reference, by the way.
Maybe I should offer advice with every blog entry? Like, I’m writing this blog entry about a lack of measurable results and trying to be funny and then …bam …I switch to a “self help” post where I compare my blog-success with any “success”, be it fitness, dieting, or relationships. The analogy would be easy to create.
Maybe I should end each blog entry with a few questions …questions so good and so compelling even the casual reader will be compelled to answer or pose a question of their own. And I don’t mean I’ll ask “should Roe v. Wade be overturned” or “will Obama Care bankrupt our nation?” That would be pandering and appealing to the lowest common denominator.
Or maybe I should really figure out my “niche.” According to the AMAZING Rochelle Melander, who inspires me every week, my lack of readers could simply be because I’m rambling and unfocused.
Is this a blog about…
- Don?
- Parenting?
- Coffee?
- Writing?
- Being unfocused?
- Finding adventure?
I’m supposed to ask myself, “why am I an expert and worthy to write a blog on a specific topic?” Then I need to identify my reader, what they need, and be able to easily list 25 blog entry titles.
Gulp!
My success (or lack of success) in blogging is because I’m unfocused. My success (or lack of success) in my career is because I’m unfocused. My success (or lack of success) in writing is because I’m unfocused. My success (or lack of success) in fitness and diet is because I’m unfocused.
See what I did there? Blogging, like any craft, vocation, hobby, or effort, won’t be what you envision if you lack focus, dedication, discipline, and consistency. And a niche. For the same reason your blog hasn’t been featured on MSNBC, neither has your amazing body or your
This blog, for now, isn’t going to have a niche and as I tell people, it continues to be a blog for me, about me, written by me. If you happen to stop by and love reading it, well, you’re totally awesome. You must love hearing about my birthday wish-list and my lung conditions.
Why do you read this blog? What topics would you like me to delve into further? If I had legions of loyal readers, I’d have a million comments.
I guess the best I can hope for, for now, is that some of my readers are like me and they have a career, and a hobby, and kids, and commitments, and a marriage, and outside interests, and this blog will feel like the voice inside their heads and it will be something light and fun to read while we all navigate our complicated world.
Here’s another song I’ll be adding to my running playlist. Welcome back, DMX.
Don Kowalewski 