Don Kowalewski
Writer. Ad Sales and Marketing. Social Media Content Creator. Aeropress Coffee. Makes the best salsa in the world.
Dad Diary: Save Me from My Son
I was going to title this Blog post “Child Abuse” and then cleverly explain that my child is kicking my butt, but that seemed horrible. But truly, my son is kicking my butt. Humbling me. Yet, motivating me.
Do you remember my Project 44? It was my mission at the beginning of the year, a year in which I was turning 44-years-old, to build a personal improvement plan to get my weight to 144 pounds, go to bed at 9:44 nightly, wake at 4:44, exercise for 44-minutes daily, write for 44-minutes daily, and on and on.
I started. I stopped. I tried again. I stopped. Like everyone and their New Year’s resolutions and #Whole30 and 90-Day boot camps, I fizzled out. Then, I changed jobs and on the day I made that decision, my daughter had started a countdown-to-Thanksgiving note on our family chalkboard (where we write chores, important dates, things needed at the store …stuff like that), and my son wondered, “how many days until Christmas.”
We did the quick math and were amazed – there were exactly 44 days until Christmas.
If you read this Blog, you know I find meaning and messages in what some might think are random, everyday coincidences. I believe in coincidences. But I also believe Angels in heaven, possibly under the direction of Jesus, can’t really call us on the phone or text us, but are allowed to communicate to us through clever methods, and we need to be on the lookout for clues and what they want to say to us.
Was it my Mom? My Uncle, Grandmothers, or a host of other Angels that keep an eye on me? I don’t know …but it was clear …someone wanted me to realize #Project44 could be a reality (editor’s note: my overall neglect of myself will not allow me to get my weight to 144 pounds by Christmas, but I’ll make a dent).
Don, you say! Get to it! Why and how is your son kicking your butt? Oh, because that night, when I told him about the message I was getting to get back to #Project44, he and I dreamed up #Bootcamp44. My son, being 13, wants to build muscles, get in shape, exercise and be faster for sports …ya know …all the stuff a teenager cares about. Me? I want to live longer and be healthy, again. I’m tired of wondering what chest pains really feel like, or did I just sleep wrong? I’m tired of my breathing issues and wondering, hmmm, if I was in any kind of better shape, would my breathing improve (and then combined with proper diet, how healthy could I actually be)? Could I really get my weight to 144 pounds? Would exercise really help my sleep like every article ever written on “sleep” and “stress” suggests?
So we started. We knew it wouldn’t be every day, but we are lucky to have a church near our house with a walking track and community center, and rooms where they have dance and karate classes, and it’s FREE!
#Bootcamp44 started simple enough…
- 11 Push-Ups
- 11 Sit-Ups
- 11 Burpees
- Ladders across the gym (some call these “suicides”)
- Repeat 3 times (see why we picked 11? Do it 4-times and the workout is 44 of each exercise)
Then my son had the idea of “adding something new every week, or adding two things per week. And now, here’s what our workout has grown into…
- 11 Push-Ups
- 11 Sit-Ups
- 11 Burpees
- 22 Mountain Climbers (each leg comes forward 11 times)
- 11 Dips (on a bench)
- 11 Pull-Ups (with assistance)
- Ladders across the gym (some call these “suicide sprints”)
- A walking lap with dumbbell shoulder presses while walking (8 lb dumbbells)
- Cool down lap
- Repeat 3 times and end with a 44-second plank
Like I told the woman who works the front desk when she asked at the end of our workout last nigt, “did you two have fun tonight?”
No! I told her I’m being tortured. The kid is relentless. He never will let me take a night off. He’s always like “when are we going to the gym?” He won’t stop. He does the entire routine faster than me. On the Ladder/Suicides, he gives me a head start and then passes me. It’s humbling. But I guess that’s the difference between a 13-year-old coming into his prime and a 44-year-old a few years past his prime.
Seriously. I would let him have ice cream and play Playstation all night if he’d just let me skip – and he never lets me skip.
Oh, and did I mention, in between sets, he’s doing the other teenage boy thing …jumping up to touch every doorway or ceiling because boys like to jump and jump higher and amaze themselves at how high they can jump and how tall they’re getting.
Between sets, I pray for the roof to collapse and for forced evacuation from the facility in order to end the torture.
It’s for my own good. I know. But it’s killin’ me (even though it’s actually doing the opposite).
Wish me continued luck.
Christmas Wish-List, Part-6
Why do I have a Blog all about me? What’s the point? The main reason is, it gets me writing, almost daily, and it’s fun. Writing, like exercise, learning guitar, or golfing can’t be done once or twice a year with the expectations of being good – each must be done consistently, and with purpose, and will get easier over time. The quality will be better.
So, you might think my Christmas Wish-List is the most egomanical thing you’ve ever seen – but, isn’t Blogging just another sorta social media and isn’t almost all social media designed to “look at me?”
Yes. That’s all social media is.
Plus, how many Blogs try and capture readers simply by listing things like “Best VR Headsets” or “Best Digital Audio Players for under $100” and they fill ’em with keywards, tags, and links and then also post that same thing to YouTube and for what? For hits and page views and impressions.
At least my Blog is not so ambitious and commercialized. If it’s funny. Great. Glad you like it. If it’s inspiring. Super great. Please keep reading and share with someone because maybe some positivity will help someone in the right moment. If you’re my wife and don’t know what to buy me for Christmas or my birthday – this Blog is for you!
This brings me to Day-6 of my Christmas Wish-Llist. I’d like a few sessions at Salinair Salt Room in Rochester Hills. I’ve read a few places about how Himalayan Sea Salt lamps and spas do wonders for the lungs and respiratory system, and because I struggle with the effects of Bronchiectasis, I would love to give this a try.
That’s a really good idea, don’t ya think? Join me tomorrow where I wish to win a million dollars so I can justify getting the Nintendo Switch just to play one (Mario) game.
One more gift idea …a high-quality Himalayan Sea Salt Lamp (this one from Himalayan Glow has a wood base, and I like that, and it seems their lamps are well reviewed). According to sources (a half dozen articles I Google’d), these lamps are known to:
- Heat from the bulb or flame causes the salt to emit negative ions
- These negative ions bond with the pollutants in the air (positive ions) and neutralize them
- Also, the newly bonded ions become heavier and fall to the ground removing them from the air circulation
- In addition, these negative ions combat electro-smog caused by electronic devices operating in the home
- Symptoms from asthma, allergies, and other illnesses can also subside from the effects of these products
- Concisely, these products cleanse the air naturally and are extremely beautiful
Plus, my brother swears since they got theirs, his wife noticed a difference in the air quality in their home. Can’t beat a testimonial like that.
Christmas Wish-List, Part 5
Three stocking stuffers, today. Easy things. Like when you’re friend is getting married and registers somewhere and you hop on-line and see everything they picked is suuuuuuper expensive, so you click “Sort By Price” and you buy whatever is around $20 (or whatever your cheap-ass budget is). These are simple, affordable things for you to get me, and trust me …I don’t judge you by the amount you spend on me, but it’s the thought that counts.
Aeropress Replacement Plunger: I love my Aeropress, but this rubber plunger end is, well, rubber, and with all the heat, plunging, and thousands of cups of coffee, it shrinks a bit, so the vacuum isn’t quite what it needs to be for the optimal cuppa coffee.
Chazzano Coffee Whole Beans: It’s available on-line, and the store in Ferndale on Nine Mile Road, or at Plum Market’s and a few other local grocers. My favorite is the Tanzanian Peaberry, but it’s been difficult to find, lately (I should ask him why). I like the Brazil beans, too.
Micro SD Cards: You can pick-up a 16 GB version pretty cheap. I would love a 32 GB or whopping 64 GB, but I don’t want to be greedy and selfish. I only have two. And that’s where I store my music to play on my Fiio digital music player, and I’d like more music with me when I go places.
That’s it. Quick and easy. Tomorrow’s Saturday morning and I have a loooong post planned about my son kicking my ass every night in our bootcamp. He’s a jerk. More on that, tomorrow.
Christmas Wish-List, Part 4
Holy crap. It’s already the 6th of December and I’ve barely gotten started on my list. It’s not me so much I worry about (though I do worry I won’t get as many gifts as I could have if I had given you all more time), but it’s you I worry about because you’re probably stressed about getting me “the perfect gift” in time.
Here’s three more things to go with my Part 1, 2, and 3.
J. Crew Lambswool V-Neck Sweater (dark grey, S/M): Before you get all up in my face about it being from J. Crew, let’s just say it can be from anywhere – Express for Men, Eddie Bauer, etc. I had on and somehow hit some snags and a hole ripped in the belly. A tight grey sweater is a must-have in any man’s wardrobe.
Klean Kanteen Insulated Tumbler Set (black): Actually, just the 16 oz. will be OK, but I’d like the 8 oz., too). We have soooooo many bottles and travel mugs, and some are missing lids and some leak, and none of them are black, and I lost the black (and stainless steel) one I had, and I just want to start over.
I also want coffee beans, black ankle socks, and a new pair of grey sweatpants that can be worn to run errands.
Goal: Stay Relevant
I’m sure Charles Koppelman has a million great stories and could write a book about business advice, but I wonder if he even knows what’s so magical about himself? He’s pushing 80 and if you watch the interview below, you’d still hire him and work with him. Why?
He stayed relevant. Click on the image below (or here) to watch the entire interview. If you’ve ever worried about someday getting “too old” or “out of touch” to compete in an ever-changing landscape that favors the young …please watch this.
Now, where’s my cheater reading glasses and robe?
Things I’m Doing
Reading: I listened to a Podcast over the weekend and heard about the book Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, which I thought sounding quite interesting. The Podcast (by Tim Ferriss) was talking about making yourself your “best friend” and …I know …that sounds like some 60s, self-love, cheesy stuff, but in the context of the Podcast (which was hilarious) and being told about the book by a guy who makes a living Blogging about procrastination and has written books and started off writing about his own personal everyday nonsense, I thought, “Don …maybe this will help you with your teenagers but, let’s be honest, you might get something out of it, too.”
Intermittent Fasting: OK. OK. I know earlier this year I was totally into this, and then I thought it made me jumpy, weak, cold, and feeling malnourished and I blamed it for some of my sleep issues, but I’m not smart and I’m doing it again. But why, you ask? Well, I’m thinking the “sleep” thing might not have been the fault of fasting and I remember how radically it jump-started my metabolism. Is it a dumb thing to do? Or one of the best, most natural things ever (part 1 and part 2 about how and why if you want to play along at home). It ain’t going to be a long-term thing – just a re-set, which is how most intermittent fasting enthusiasts use it.
Spearmint Goat Milk Soap: Was at the Birmingham Winter Mrkt (yes …that’s really how they spell “market” and makes it sooooooo Birmingham) this past Friday and a woman selling goat milk soap (I think it was Nellie’s Natural Soap). She suggested (because my wife suggested) that it might be great for me in the shower to help open my sinuses. I probably should’ve gotten something with Eucalyptus, but she didn’t have that. Either way, it is quite lovely and smells great and I haven’t had a breathing issue since Friday – it’s gotta be the soap, homey.
Oh, and intermittent fasting is proven to help with asthma …probably because the person doing it isn’t scarfing down yeast and white bread, but whatever.
New soap. Some fasting. And a good book (audio book, but that’s just like reading). Finish the year strong.
Tomorrow’s topics: bootcamp with my 13-year-old son, cold showers, more Christmas Wish-List items.
Christmas Wish-List, Part 3
Day-1 and Day-2 of my Christmas wish-list were pretty lame. Three out of four items on the wish-list, so far, are shoes. I’m old. Not like today’s gonna get much better, as I’m about to ask for a set of headphones to be worn at night so I can drift to sleep while listening to Podcasts or books on tape (sorry ladies …I’m taken). And I want copper pans.
Copper Chef Round Fry Pan Set: I have two non-stick pans and, like microwaving things in plastic containers, I know they’re giving me Cancer everyday. So, for now, until someone discovers copper lined pans are the worst thing for your health, and because 2017 was the year we did a total kitchen make-over, I want a set of these copper fry pans. I don’t know if you’ve seen the infomercial on TV, but these are the real deal. I think they burned something onto them awful and with just a paper towel, all that burnt mess just wiped away. On, the Cancer thing …I guess the longer you have non-stick pans, that Teflon coating chips away and we ingest it, and that can’t be good. And since cooking in Teflon non-stick is the only unhealthy thing I do (sarcasm), hellooooo 100th birthday, here I come.
Bedphones: I’m embarrassed to say (but only slightly embarrassed) that I’m on my 5th pair and their known flaw (the left side will stop working) isn’t a deterrent to me. For almost a year, I’ve been using just the one-ear version I have to listen to Podcasts or music at night. I love these things because they’re so lightweight and they sit on the outside of the ear like a mini on-ear pair of headphones. Their whole thing is they lay flat on your ear so you can sleep in them and they won’t jab into your ear like an ear-bud, and they’re not big and bulky like on-ear and over the year headphones. I’m not alone …sometimes I have trouble sleeping and it’s because my mind races and thinks of a million things at once, so if I fire up a book-on-tape about the life of Albert Einstein, lemme tell ya …I fall asleep fast. My fall-back always is, however, if that I still can’t sleep, I’ll learn a heckuva lot about Albert Einstein and insomnia won’t be a waste of time. However, I set the sleep-timer for a half-hour and I never hear much more than five minutes of whatever I’m listening to. Bedphones saved my life – I’m not exaggerating.
Now …enjoy a quick video about the pans.
Christmas Wish-List, Part 2
Two more things for my Christmas Wish-List, and I’m so sorry I’m dripping these ideas onto the world. Yesterday, I indicated I want a Bongo Bamboo Bluetooth Speaker and slip-on Johnston & Murphy’s. Today I’m going for a replacement of a Christmas classic and something retro.
Bogs Urban Walker: For those who remember my Christmas of 2014, you remember I got these fully waterproof slip-ons for walking the dog. Three years later, my first pair have worn a bit thin on the bottom (so many miles on them) and a seam has split …so it’s time to replace them with the exact same thing. They were better than I ever imagined, in fact, because I learned they were warm to a -20 degrees and they pretty much became my go-to, quicky footwear.
Adidas Sambas – Classic: If you can believe this, I bought myself a pair of Adidas indoor soccer shoes around 1999 and have played countless games, coached hours upon hours of my kids’s games, and have run even more practices. I don’t know how they held up. 
We’re talking 18 years!!! Well, this past season, the finally died on me. The upper separated from the sole and, yes, duct tape fixed it, but I know one more rainy outdoor practice and those things will be toast. So, it’s time to revisit a classic …I had these Adidas Sambas all through high-school and into college until they were stolen from my room at the frat during a party, and a little part of me died that day. It’s time I recapture my youth and rock some classic Sambas.
Sorry to be making you click around …by this evening, I’ll publish my master list so you can easily shop for me.
Christmas Wish-List, Part 1
With Thanksgiving so early this year, I really blew it in not getting this out sooner. I’ll expand on this, but wanted to get the quick-wish-list out a.s.a.p. You’re welcome.
Bongo Bamboo Bluetooth Speaker: It’s soothing to look at, water resistant (because I’m such a beach-going type of guy), and gets rave reviews on sound. My current music-anywhere option is using my son’s speaker. He’s generous and doesn’t seem to mind sharing, but I’m always using his badass headphones and his equally badass Bluetooth speaker, so I think it’s about time I get my own. Plus, I have a vision of this sitting on a corner shelf in my living room and it should look this good. I’m partial to the Oslo or the North Fork.
Johnston & Murphy Penny (or Tassle) Ski-Moc Loafers: There comes a point in every man’s life when he just has to say, “aw, hell …I’m old and not getting any younger, and I need to buy quality, classic shoes that will last me the rest of my life. The two pairs of Johnston & Murphy’s I’ve had have been the best built, longest-lasting shoes, ever. Shoe-shine guys seem to light up when they
see quality shoes. Shoe repair places gleefully re-sole them. “But, Don,” you ask, “is it really necessary to spend that kinda money on a pair of shoes?” Well, in the past 4 years, I’ve gone through 2 pairs of $100 black shoes, 3 pairs of $100 brown shoes, and I’m hanging onto a pair of black Cole Haans that have holes in the bottom and can’t be re-soled. In four years, it’s safe to say I’ve spent $600 on dress shoes. So, if I spent a little more on Johnston & Murphy’s, and I could keep them for 5 years each …well, don’t make me bust out a spreadsheet and just trust me …it will pay off in the long run. And they’re sooooo versitale. They can be dressed up or dressed down.
That’s all for now. More tomorrow during my Saturday morning writing.
Lungs, Brain, Heart
2018 will be the “Year of the Lung, Brain, and Heart” (for me, anyway). It needs a better name. Maybe “Brain, Breath, Beat?”
I’ll come up with something.
Basically, it’s just another thing to Blog about, but if I do it right, it might help someone else.
Starting with the brain – Step 1 – reduce sugar consumption by a lot as a major first step.
Actually, there’s five steps to fixing my brain (according to this Dr. Masley cat. Here’s the first two he gave me in his FREE video series.
- Limit toxins (sugars, white bread, and processed meats – guilty)
- Limit and manage stress – some stress is good (elevates things), but long-term stress does harm. And to manage stress, add (a) daily exercise, (b) laughter, (c) adequate sleep, and (d) meditation, prayer, and calm.
So, I tricked my son into working out with me every day and rekindled Project 44. More on that in a future Blog …but it’s basically 44-minutes of exercise and each exercise is done 44-times.
Don Kowalewski 